One Lovely Blog Award.

Not sure what I did to earn this, but the wonderful A Kinder Way has yet again nominated me for a blogging award, and who am I to contradict? The rules for this one are very simple... Thank the person that nominated you and provide a link to their blog. List the rules. Display the... Continue Reading →


"Let us be clear: there is no such thing as “sex-reassignment” surgery. A mutilated male pumped full of estrogen remains just that—a mutilated male pumped full of estrogen. He has not “transitioned” into being a woman. He can never be a woman." (Margaret A. Hagen, Transgenderism Has No Basis in Science or Law) "At the... Continue Reading →

A Year of Existence

It was on the 8th of January 2015 that I began this blog, following the advice of my friend Jason, with no very clear idea but plenty of trepidation as to what might come out of it. Now seems as good a time as any to take stock of what I have learned and gained...... Continue Reading →

Responsibilities of Embodiment

Last week at Royal Mail, while on break and working my way through the exercises in my Springboard Workbook, I encountered the following passage... Being a woman Being a woman is at the core of who you are. Usually the first thing that people notice about each other is the gender that they are. Some... Continue Reading →

Pride, but no Prejudice

Like you haven't heard that one before... There are Pride events in Cardiff (AKA Mardi Gras) every year, though my previous attendance at them has been limited to drifting about aimlessly and wistfully, observing other trans people and wondering what might have been if I had only dared to be as honest with myself as... Continue Reading →

Her Majesty’s Sadistic Pleasure

The latest family news from France has been encouraging: nearly all of the family now know of our mutual decision to transition, and are supportive. This means I can at last announce that Cal and I are accepted by both of our families, which is no small thing both in terms of contributing to a... Continue Reading →

Carpe Diem

Sands fall slow, yet gone Before you know. Take the rest To be who you are. (Images, as ever, by the wonderful Jason Marsh)

Stark Staring Sane

Another huge sigh of relief breathed today, as my preliminary mental assessment is now out of the way, and initial results are looking promising. Having woken up early, dressed smartly, made myself up, and stressing myself out something silly, I made my way down to the local mental health centre in the company of a... Continue Reading →

Pink Slip

After weeks of fretting, sweating, and imagining pink slips (and not of the kind as above, nice though it would be to be able to rock one convincingly...), I am finally completely out to all of the managers at my workplace. Every one of them was respectful and sympathetic, so again I have no juicy... Continue Reading →

Attack of the Grammar Zombies

Last night I attended the "Trans+ Social Meet Up" in Cardiff for the first time. It was the largest gathering I had been to yet, and also the most diverse, with transwomen, transmen, allies, agendered, and gender-neutral people in attendance. With such a varied assembly, this led inevitably to the topic of appropriate pronouns... Years... Continue Reading →

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